Dr Demartini shares why your values determine your destiny, and how the Law of Attraction REALLY works!
Transcript (machine generated): About 13, 14 years ago, the movie, 'The Secret' came out and put that terminology out into the marketplace. And most people have heard of the term by now, so I'd like to address that. When I filmed for that movie many years ago, I filmed for seven hours, seven and a half hours actually for the movie
Transcript (machine generated): About 13, 14 years ago, the movie, 'The Secret' came out and put that terminology out into the marketplace. And most people have heard of the term by now, so I'd like to address that. When I filmed for that movie many years ago, I filmed for seven hours, seven and a half hours actually for the movie, to be in the movie for about a minute. It goes to show that I say a lot of stuff that was not, I guess, say resonate with some of the other people. And there was sort of a mystical insight or a mystical idea associated with the movie. You know, your thoughts become things, but I'd like to ground it, make it a little bit more practical, because after the movie came out, I was very commonly asked to do a presentation, the secret behind the secret left out of The Secret. So I'd like to address that. So if you've got maybe a pen and paper, you might want to take some notes, or type it up.
Without a doubt, what you think about and what you concentrate your intention on increases the probability of your sensory perceptions, filtering out of your environment, information that can help you achieve it. It also, out of sight, out of mind, but insight in mind, helps you also prioritize your actions, which increase the probability of actually achieving things. So thinking about things does increase the probability of being aware of opportunities around you, synchronous opportunities, and also taking action. I think most people, when they go and write down a goal and look at the goal every single day, they notice that there's an increasing probability of noticing things that help them get that goal and they're more likely to take actions on it.
I've been writing down objectives since I was 17, and updating those objectives regularly, I have volumes of objectives, goals, and they've come true, about probably 90-95% of them are realities today. So it'd be hard to convince me that what you think about, what you visualize, what you internally dialogue with yourself about, what you feel inspired and grateful for, and what you would love to create in life, and what you take action on, unquestionably increases the probability of achieving what it is that you want. But this leads me to an insight. Why would somebody start off with a goal and then it would peter out? Just kind of like a new year's resolution. You start about it, you think about it and then two, three weeks later, you almost forget about it. Because it's initiated by a lower value, transient value instead of something that's really important.
So I'm gonna make a statement and this is the first thing I'd like you to maybe write. Don't waste your time on goals that aren't really, truly highest in priority in your life. Because anytime you do something that's aligned with the highest values, you increase the probably of achievement. You increase your self worth, you increase your awareness. Now let me elaborate on that. If you're a mother, you're 35 years old, you have three children under the age of five and your highest value is taking care of those beautiful children. And you are really dedicated as a mom. You're not working. You're not distracted by the thought, 'Oh, I need to work.' You just focusing on those beautiful children every day. Because your highest value is your children, if you were to walk in a mall, you can almost guarantee that what you see in the mall will be children related.
You'll see children's toys, children's educational materials, children's clothes, children's entertainment. You will automatically filter out of your reality, your sensory experience, those things that will assist you in fulfilling what you value most. So if you are having a high value on your children, you will literally in the pulmonary nuclei of the thalamus, which is in the diencephalon, which is a sub-cortical structure in the brain that filters your sensory awareness to bring it up to conscious awareness, you will automatically filter things out based on what you value most. Now, something that's low on your value, you will not allow to get through that filter. You'll have attention surplus order in the things high in your value. You'll have attention deficit disorder in the things that are low. So when you walk in a mall and your highest value is your children, you won't notice computers.
You won't notice businesses that are booming, that you might want to buy stock in, you won't notice suits or things that relate to business. You'll focus on the things that are valuable to you. And of course, when you're married to somebody, they probably have a different set of values because most marriages have an androgynous integration of opposites. So what happens is your spouse would walk in the mall and see completely different things and be interested in different things than you because they have different sets of values, different priorities. So whatever's highest on your priority list, whatever is highest in your value, the thing that's most important, most meaningful, the thing that is most inspiring that you want to fulfill, that's deeply important to you, that's the thing that you're going to have the most synchronous, opportunistic opportunity coming to your awareness.
So don't waste your time on objectives, goals, intentions that are not highest on your list of values. If you're not certain about your values, please go to our website, dr.demartini.com and do the value determination process and do it honestly, don't write down answers, there's 13 questions, when you're writing the answers to them, don't write answers that you think that you would like them to be, write down what your life demonstrates. Your words don't mean much. Your actions mean everything. What is it that you demonstrate spontaneously that you love doing that you do every day that nobody has to remind you to do? That tells you what you value most. That tells you where you're going to excel most. That's where you're going to be the most alert in your sensory awareness to see opportunity. Now, this law of attraction is not so much a metaphysical mystical thing, as it is a brain thing.
When you actually set goals that are congruent with your highest values, you filter that through to your conscious awareness and you see opportunities, you gather data to be able to make decisions more efficiently, and you tend to spontaneously act on those. So whatever's highest on our value, we spontaneously act on. Things that are low on our values, we need motivation to act. So we procrastinate, hesitate and frustrate on lower values. We don't see opportunities. We don't filter those in. We filter those out. So we just exclude the opportunities. And so we have attention deficit disorder, retention deficit disorder, intention deficit disorder in our lower values, but we have a high degree of awareness, retention and action in our highest. So if you want to increase the probability of actually seeing the law of attraction work, what you're attracted to by your highest values, you will spot in your environment and increase the probability of making it happen.
I have a high value on teaching. So I see teaching opportunities. I'll walk into a hotel and look on the marquees to look at who are the companies that are out putting on conferences and walk around and introduce myself to people to see opportunities. But if there's all of a sudden a convention on IT, I'd walk right past it, it's not on my radar, but if it's on human behavior, I go in there and I introduce myself. So I will spot things that align with my values. I will more likely to make a decision to go forward and I'll take action on it, in that area. So you want the probabilistic outcomes, the probabilities to be in your favor. So don't waste your time on goals that aren't truly demonstrated to be most important to your life. And I try to get that across because many times people, meet people they're enamored with, they infatuate with them a bit, and what they do is they think, 'Oh my God, I'd like to do that too.' They have a temporary whim.
And what they do is they go after this thing, that's not really important to them. It's just sort of a temporary high. And then they wonder why they, it all Peters out. So your sensory awareness is heightened. Your decision-making is heightened and your spontaneous actions are heightened in your highest value. So go to the website, determine your values. Do it again a week from now, a month from now, and every quarter from now and keep current with them, so you're setting goals and objectives that are really aligned to what you value most. I assure you, guarantee you, you will increase the probability of seeing synchronous events in your life. The synchronicity of events that surface in your life have a lot to do with you setting goals that are congruent. People who are integral and congruent have a higher probably of achievement than people that set fantasies.
Don't waste your time on fantasies. A fantasy is something that is a goal you have that's not high on your values that you think you're doing it for outside motivations. If you need motivation to remind you to do what it is that you want to do, it's not what you want to do. If you need motivation to incentivize you, to remind you, whatever, anything like that, that's a sign that's not important. And if you need to be reminded, pardon me, If you need to be reminded to do what you say is important, what you say is important, isn't important. So that principle, don't waste your time on objectives that are not truly aligned with what your life demonstrates you're committed to, because it's wiser to be focused on a few things that are truly deeply meaningful than a bunch of scattered things that are fantasies.
Now that doesn't mean you can't link almost anything to that highest value. If you ask; how specifically is doing this pursuit, helping me fulfill what's most meaningful to me? And you make enough links, you'll increase the probability of the pulmonary nucleus spotting opportunities, making decisions quickly, and acting. So you have two choices; either go and do what you really love to do, delegating the rest and stick to what's important, or love what you do by linking whatever it is that you feel you would like to do to your highest values. I've seen people in my Breakthrough Experience program, which is my signature program, I've done 1,122 times. I've taken people who have had a low value, let's say on wealth building, and we've stacked up, how specifically are doing the actions that help people and proven to help people build their wealth, how specifically is doing those actions, helping you fulfill what you deeply value most? What's most important to you?
Once it's linked in your brain, there's neural pathways and myelinization that show the links, you increase the probability of achieving it and seeing opportunities around it and taking decisions and going towards that objective. Because whatever's highest on your values is what you think about most. My highest value is teaching. I think about it every day. The second highest value is researching and learning. I do it every day. No one has to remind me, I don't need motivation. I don't need incentives. I just do it. It's what I spontaneously do. Finding out what you spontaneously do is the direction to set real objectives. If for some reason you want to raise something into a higher value, so you make your self more focused on it, you stack up the advantages and benefits of doing the actions that are proven to do that, to what you currently have on your highest values, by stacking general benefits and making links to your highest values, you increase the probability of now concentrating, seeing opportunity, making decisions quickly and acting on them and therefore manifesting it.
Our manifestation, the things that we create in our life is a byproduct of our inner most dominant thought. There's a new movie that's just coming out, or just did come out, pardon me, called 'How Thoughts Become Things' to sequel to The Secret. And in there, I've mentioned also this formula of thinking about it, visualizing it, affirming it, feeling it, acting on it, et cetera. And it's true. There's no doubt about it. I think you'll see the great sports people and great celebrities that have dreams or whatever have followed these formulas and increased it, but they don't want to waste their time on something that's not really valuable to them. I don't want to waste my value on saying, 'Oh, I think I want to open up a cookie manufacturing company.' It's not on my values. Studying human behavior, wow. I love it. It's spontaneous. So if I set goals on that, I'm going to achieve, and I will see opportunities.
And I manifest opportunities all around me. Every single day, new opportunities come in and around teaching around human behavior, but things that are low in my values, that's not what happens. I don't spot the opportunities, I don't take advantage of it. I don't make decisions quickly. I don't have enough data on it to make those decisions. And I don't act, I procrastinate, hesitate, frustrate. That's why I don't drive. That's why I don't cook. I don't do. I learned a long time ago, don't do low priority things. Cause if you want to a life of desperation, do low priority things. You want a life of inspiration, do high priority things. That leads me to the motor side. That was the sensory awareness. But your motor side is, every day ask yourself; what is the highest priority action I can do today that increases the probability or odds that I will achieve what it is and I will be, or do or have what it is
that's most important to me. If you prioritize your life, you will see that you have more energy. You'll be more enthused. You'll be more likely to act spontaneously. You'll be more likely to achieve. You'll walk your talk. You wake up more leadership. You'll exemplify congruency, authenticity. You'll magnetize people around you that want to be around that because they spontaneously are yearning to want to be able to do that themselves so whenever they see somebody that's living that way, they're drawn to them. So you draw in people to assist you in taking the actions that help you achieve things when you start to prioritize your actions daily. Now when you prioritize your actions and doing what's highest on value in pursuing it, your sensory awareness, your decision process, and your actions are now moving in the direction of it, increasing the odds and probability that you achieve.
Now, there is definitely some sort of a interesting resonation factor there. We did a thing back in the 80s and early 90s where I worked with, I did a consulting or consulting for over a thousand doctors offices in many, many countries and cities throughout the United States. And we sometimes do four corporate doctor's offices a week. And what's interesting is we found out that if we go and memorize the names of patients, I had a doctor in Chicago that came to me for consulting. And I had dinner with him the night before and I asked him to recite the names of his patients off the top of his head until he had a three second delay between one patient and another, and he rattled off 68 names. And then he paused for three seconds as he was thinking about it and I stopped.
I said, 'How many days a week you work?' He says, 'Four and a half.' Four and a half x 68 is around, you know, 300 and something people. And I said, 'Is that what your average per week?' He said, 'yeah, that is.' I said, 'You are going to manifest an average of what your mind sees.' That's why those with a vision flourish and those without a vision perish. So I showed him, tonight I said to him, 'Go home and memorize another hundred names, start memorizing names.' Because when you think about them and you can see them in your mind's eye, they mysteriously all of a sudden, see you. It's quite interesting, because you're now having a value on them. You're now seeing opportunities around them. You're now doing actions towards them and you're increasing the probability of their manifesting. Well, we've found out that if you take patients and recite their names and think about their names and think about what their conditions are and what they were doing on how they're doing, 20% of them will all of a sudden refer somebody or show up back in your office or something will happen.
And there'll be back. It's reactivating. It's a very powerful principle because what's in your mind is what becomes reality. So go and do that, go and memorize, take all your inactive patients, you know, active clients, inactive attendees, or whatever you do, inactive buyers and go and make a list of all of them and watch what happens. Say their names for a week, every single day and I guarantee you, you will blow your mind on what happens because your inner most dominant thought becomes your outermost tangible reality. You will notice more opportunities to act towards them becoming clients again, and reactivate them. And they will somehow mysteriously, synchronously be at the right place at the right time to meet somebody that talks to somebody that mentions you and the things start happening and you can go and see this thing happen, it's quite amazing.
But it's based on you going after something that's deeply meaningful to you. That doctor, the following day had five new patients, and two of them were referrals and they were from the names and he couldn't believe it. He goes, 'That's, that's bizarre how it happens.' I said, 'Your innermost dominant thought becomes your outermost tangible reality.' If you can't wait to serve people, people can't wait to get your service. If you're enthused about being with people, they're more enthused about being with you. If you're enthused as a teacher to want to teach students, the students are more enthused about being in your class. It's kind of common sense, but we sometimes don't put it into action. So, prioritize your actions, prioritize your perceptions, prioritize your decisions towards the things that you really value most and you'll increase the probability of having those things become reality.
And you do attract those opportunities that you're attracted to. You know, it's like a magnet, but you don't want to live in a fantasy. You don't want to go after something that's a delusion. You know, I had people after The Secret, when the movie came out, I had people come up to me and said, 'Well, I've watched the movie six times. I've read the book, read the book six times. And I watched the movie 20 times. And I go out to my mailbox every day and I don't see a million dollar check in it.' Well, that's irrational. The probability of getting a million dollar check in your mailbox spontaneously just by visualizing it is not very high. But if you go out and do something that serves people that's worth a million dollars, it certainly goes up in value. So be, you know, not illusioned by fantasies.
Make sure that you really, really, really are willing to do the things and actions that it takes to go and have the outcomes that you want. It's the action steps that also matter. And I disagree with some of the people on The Secret, when they said, you know, just visualize it, don't try to think it out. My experience is strategic planning in the forebrain is a very powerful tool on making things happen. I wouldn't want to be Elon Musk company and go of to SpaceX and Mars without having, you know, foresight and planning and thinking and mitigating risk and doing what it takes to achieve things. So I'm a firm believer in asking, what obstacles might I run into and how do I solve them in advance? So I'm mitigating the risks. So I'm not distracted by those with anxieties. And I can take my actions knowing full well what's real.
So I'm prepared for the challenges instead of broadsided by them. So I have eustress which inspires me instead of distress. So that's why you want to focus on things that are high in your values, because that's where you'll embrace both pain and pleasure in the pursuit of it. That's where you'll have the highest problem of achieving it. And that's where you have the highest probably of synchronicities, noticing opportunities and resonating with those opportunities. And there's no doubt that the people you hang out with do have an impact on the people you hang out with. You know, I learned a long time ago, when my wife was alive many years ago, we decided that we wanted to raise our wealth positioning. So we decided to save more, invest more. We also decided to associate with people that had a higher income. And we decided then to move into the wealthiest building, we could find in New York, which was Trump tower.
We got up on the very high 62nd floor. And that year our incomes went up, and then we moved onto the ship, The World, and our incomes went up, and we noticed that the people we associated with, the conversations we did changed because the values were different. And when we had conversations on those values and focused on that and found out what was really important to us, and also interacting with people, the people we associated with have an impact, hey have different levels of expectation. If you hang out with people that are wealthier than you, they encourage you to go up. And hanging out with people that are poorer than you, they tend to encourage you to, to think you're greedy and why do you need that? And so you end up having a resonation around you.
So your inner most dominant thought will also determine where you resonate and who you hang out with, and you want to prioritize those people into it. It doesn't mean don't serve people of all different scales, but it just means that the people you spend the most of your time with are people that are resonating with the same space and time horizons, the same kind of objectives, maybe not the same values, but the same level of operation. If you do, you'll tend to expand yourself. If not, you'll tend to contract yourself. So prioritize the people you have focus on, prioritize your actions every day, prioritize your perceptions everyday, prioritize what you feed your mind. I'd much rather read the quotations of the greatest thinkers throughout the ages than to read some sort of trashy you know, tabloid news that's basically distorted things with misinformation and subjective biases and things like that.
I would rather fill my mind with high priority actions, high priority thoughts, higher priority readings and content that by people that have made a big difference in the world, because it increases the probability of me now thinking about it, making decisions and acting upon it. We've all been in situations we've been surrounded or seen somebody that's inspiring. You've seen America's Got Talent or Australia's Got Talent, or, or you know, UK's Got Talent and you see a 13 year old person singing like an angel or doing some sort of amazing talent and it inspires you and brings tears to your eyes, you want to hang out with that and surround yourself with that because if you surround yourself with those expressions, you increase the probability of those expressions. I wrote a book many years ago, 'The Secrets to Immortality',
and one of the things we talked about, or I talked about in that book was exactly that, surrounding yourself with exactly how you want your life and watch what happens. So I'm a firm believer that if you're going to focus on something, make sure it's highest on your value. Don't waste your time on things that are low on your value, because anytime you do something low on your value, you devalue yourself, anytime you do something high on your value, you value yourself. And if you want to value yourself, the world will. If you don't value yourself, neither will the world. The world reflects what you perceive in yourself. And by taking the time to prioritize what you do and going on my website and doing the Value Determination, it will help you achieve more. And anytime you set your goal, it's not just the idea of getting the goal,
it's the fulfillment of taking actions and incrementally measuring the results as you move towards it. I'm a firm believer that if something's really, really important to you, you'll measure the milestones along the way that you're making. I keep records of all the goals that I've had since I was 17. Goals of traveling the world, so every country I go to I document, every city I speak in I document, every organization I speak, I document, every place that I've gotten to speak, I document. Because I want to make sure that I'm refining what I'm doing based on what I get as a feedback to increase the probability of what's working and not working. Because if you really have a value on something, you'll see things as feedback. You won't get caught in the illusion of success or fear of failure, the infatuation of success and the fear of failure distracts you from being a person on a mission.
I'd rather be an individual on a mission and focus on that and see success and failure as feedback mechanisms, to guide my actions, to increase the probability of achieving. So that way my inner most dominant thought does become my outermost tangible reality. So, I've tried to give some of the ideas today about the law of attraction, and the law of attraction is that you're whatever you're attracted to, you increase the probability of manifesting, and it's like, it looks like it's attracted to you, but you also do attract resonant individuals in your life. I noticed that when I had a $10 saved, I got to hang out with 10 aires. I had a hundred dollars saved I hung out with a hundred-aires. Had a thousand dollars saved, I hung out with a thousand-aires, had a million dollars saved I hung out with millionaires, had a decamillion dollar saved, decamillion. As my millions have gone up,
so has the people and the influence of those people gone up. So opportunities, ideas, associations, resonation go up, because you're playing and your own perception and self-image is going up. So every time you're doing something high in your value, your self image goes up and so do the opportunities. So document the achievements, that way you can be grateful on a daily basis for what you are achieving. And if you do, gratitude keeps you centered, it keeps you authentic. And when you're grateful for what you get, you get more to be grateful for. So that's just the law of attraction and elaborated in a little bit more depth. And, but I wanna make sure we grounded into some practical actions, prioritize your actions, prioritize your perceptions, prioritize your decisions, prioritize who you be, you're hanging out with, prioritize what you read, fill your mind with, and you will see that it will make a difference in your life.
I'm certain, I've been doing it for many, many years, and I I've seen the results of my life. I once lived on the streets and now I've been blessed to impact people around the world. And I know it's because of that principle. So just wanted to share that with you, and also just know that if you do live by your highest values, you're going to expand your contribution on the planet. You're going to expand, you're going to expand your vision. You're going to expand your outreach. You're going to expand the opportunities. And so that increases the odds of achievement. So in order to help you with this objective of the law of attraction, I'd like to share with you what I want to give you as a gift. There's a special gift, it's called Awakening Your Astronomical Vision. And this is a live presentation I did in Johannesburg in a planetarium to YPO group to help them expand their vision of contribution on the planet.
It's about an hour and a half or so. It's amazing audio program. I know you'll watch it or listen to it, pardon me, for at least five or six times probably, that's what most people do, and they'll listen to it over and over again until it becomes part of their thinking. So if you'd like to expand your contribution on the planet and make a bigger difference, have a clearer vision, understand how the brain creates that because those with a vision flourish. This CD program will help you manifest by the law of attraction. It'll help you actually create that outcome. So take advantage of that. Please do that. It's just free. It's something I assure you that you'll listen to. It's worth $50 normally, we sold it, but just take advantage of it. I know you'll say thank you. And also, there's an upcoming program coming up called Finding Purpose and Meaning on Your Journey to Self-Mastery.
This is a free live masterclass. This is something that I'll be presenting about identifying your purpose, living a life of deep meaning on your path to self-mastery. So I'm absolutely certain that if you want to apply this law of attraction into even higher levels, take advantage of this masterclass that's happened. It's complimentary. Also please take advantage of the value determination process on my website, do that regularly to keep current with what you value most. So you're setting priorities and living by priority. Take advantage of our podcasts that are on there and our YouTube channel and videos. Please take advantage of our website. Our website is an educational website designed to assist whoever's observing or watching or reading or listening or viewing to help them master their lives and live more fulfilled lives. So please take advantage of it. It means a lot to me when I get thank you letters coming in from around the world of people that watched a video or took a program or attended the Breakthrough Experience and their lives shifted, the trajectory of their lives shifted. You know that when you make a difference in other people's lives, that's the most fulfilling thing you got. And that's what I love doing. So please take advantage of those, because I know if you do, you'll increase the probability of those and someday we'll meet live and maybe in the meantime, I'll get a letter from you saying, 'Hey, this is what made the difference.' That's what means something to me. I've been doing it now 48 years plus, and I love doing that. So I'd love to help you do something extraordinary with your life.
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About This Video:
Our innermost dominant thought becomes our outermost tangible reality. Go beyond the fantasies that set people up for self depreciation, and discover the key practical ingredients that you can use to leverage this law. The law of attraction is about congruency and staying focused on what's most meaningful to you. Dr John Demartini helps you learn how to see the synchronicities and opportunities that surround you, take action and manifest what you'd really love in life.
⌚TIME STAMPS: Intro, The Secret Don't waste time with goals and intentions not highest on your values Sensory Awareness Raise something into a higher value Manifestation and prioritizing your life Don't go after fantasies Surround yourself with exactly how you want your life Free Gift: Awakening Your Astronomical Vision Free Masterclass: Finding Purpose and Meaning on Your Path to Self Mastery
About Dr John Demartini:
Dr. John Demartini is a human behavior specialist, a polymath, philosopher, international speaker and best-selling author. He has recently been awarded the IAOTP Top Human Behavior Specialist of the Year as well as the IAOTP Lifetime Achievement Award.
His work is a summation of over 299 different disciplines synthesized from the greatest minds in most fields of study today. His extensive curriculum focuses on helping purpose driven individuals master their lives so that they’re able to more extensively serve humanity with their inspired vision and mission.
What you think about and thank about you bring about:
What you think about and what you concentrate your intention on impacts your sensory perceptions thereby filtering out of your environment information to help you achieve it. Thinking about something truly meaningful and important that you intend to create or fulfil increases the probability of becoming aware of the many opportunities and resources surrounding you to achieve it.
Thinking about things DOES increase the probability of your:
Being aware of opportunities around you (synchronous opportunities), and
Most people who write down a goal and look at it every day are likely to notice an increasing probability of being aware of things that help them reach their goal and they are therefore more likely to take prioritized productive action.
As an example, I’ve written down and regularly updated my objectives since I was 17. I’ve volumes of objectives and goals, of which 90% are realities today.
I’m certain that what you think about, visualize, internally dialogue with yourself about, feel inspired and grateful for, would love to create in life, and what you act on, SIGNIFICANTLY increases the probability of achieving what it is that you want.
Goals that fizzle out are likely to have been initiated by a lower transient values and not your highest and truly most important or meaningful value.
What you’re attracted to by your highest values, you’ll tend to spot in your environment.
If you’re a mother with three children under the age of five and your highest value is taking care of those beautiful children, you’re likely to be focused on anything related to their care and wellbeing.
Suppose you head to a mall, for example. In that case, you’ll tend to notice child-related items – children's clothes, toys, educational equipment, and entertainment – any items that will assist you in fulfilling what you value most for or with your children.
At that moment, on a neural level in the pulvinar nuclei of your brain’s thalamus, which is part of your diencephalon - a sub-cortical structure in the brain that filters your sensory awareness to bring it up to conscious awareness, you will automatically filter your environment based on what you value most. As a result, something that is LOW on your list of values tends not to get through that filter and is overlooked.
Whatever is HIGHEST on your list of values or priorities - the thing that is most important, meaningful, and inspiring to you - is the thing that you are going to spot in your environment and have the most synchronous, opportunity coming into your awareness. You will have attention surplus in your highest values and attention deficit in your lower values. Just like if you buy a new model of cars and suddenly notice them around you.
For example, I have a high value on teaching. As a result, I am more likely to see teaching opportunities all around me. If there is a convention on IT, I will likely walk right past it as it is not on my radar. However, if there is one on human behaviour, I will tend to walk straight in and introduce myself. Synchronicity increases when you intend and live according to your highest values.
In other words, I’m likely to spot things that align with my highest values. I’m also more likely to decide to go forward and take action in that area.
It would be wise not to waste your time on objectives, goals, and intentions that are not aligned with your highest values.
A fantasy is simply a immediately gratifying polarized goal that is not truly high on your list of values and not a true balanced objective well though through and planned. A fantasy often requires extended external motivation to ever become even a probable reality.
If you need motivation to remind you to do what you want to do, it is not what you truly intrinsically want to do.
If you need motivation to incentivize you or remind you to take action, it is a sign that is not truly and highly important to you.
If you need to be reminded to do what you say is important, it is not really that important to you.
It’s wise to focus on a few truly and deeply meaningful objectives instead of a bunch of scattered goals that are just transient fantasies.
Now that doesn't mean that you cannot link almost anything to your highest values and increase the odds of achieving.
Suppose you ask, "How specifically is doing this pursuit helping me fulfil what is most meaningful to me?" and you make enough links. In that case, you will increase the probability of your pulvinar nucleus spotting surrounding opportunities, and of your making decisions quickly and acting on them with perseverence.
So, you have two choices: either go and do what you really love to do, stick to what is important and delegate the rest, or love what you do by linking whatever it is that you feel you would like to do to your highest values. You spontaneously act toward objectives that are truly valuable to you.
In my 2 day signature seminar program the Breakthrough Experience that I have presented over 1,120 times, I take individuals who’ve have a low value, let's say on wealth building, and ask them, "How specifically could doing the proven action steps that build wealth, help you fulfil what you deeply value most and what is most important to you?" The more answers they bring out to the surface of their minds consciously the more inspired they become pursuing it and doing the proven actions steps.
Once it is linked in their brain, they increase the probability of achieving it, seeing opportunities around it, making decisions, and moving towards that more inspired objective.
Suppose, for some reason, you want to raise something into a higher value so you can make yourself more focused on it. In that case, you can stack up the advantages and benefits of doing those actions and link them to your highest values.
In doing so, you increase the probability of now concentrating, seeing an opportunity, making decisions quickly and acting on them, and therefore ultimately manifesting it.
Whatever is highest on your values is what you think about most.
My highest value is teaching - I think about it every day. My second highest value is researching and learning - I do it every day. No one has to remind me to do it. I don't need extrinsic motivation. I don't need incentives. I just do it. It is what I spontaneously do every day for over 48 years.
Finding out what YOU spontaneously do will help you to set real and meaningful objectives.
Our manifestation, the things that we create in our life, is a byproduct of our innermost dominant thought.
Many top sportspeople and great celebrities around the world don't waste their time on something that's not valuable to them.
I don't want to waste my value on saying, 'Oh, I think I want to open up a cookie manufacturing company.' It's not on at all high on my list of values or priorities.
Studying human behaviour, on the other hand, I am spontaneously inspired to do it, and I set goals on it, achieve in that area and see opportunities.
As a result, I manifest opportunities all around me relative to that highest value.
New opportunities come in around teaching and human behaviour every day, but not around things that are low in my values. In those instances, I tend not to spot opportunities, take advantage of them, nor make quick decisions, or act on them.
Instead, I’m more likely to procrastinate, hesitate, frustrate around anything I devalue. It is why I don't drive or cook. I learned a long time ago that I’d be wise not to perform tasks that are low on my values or priorities – they devalue me.
If you want to put this to the test then I recommend you take all your inactive patients, clients, attendees, or buyers and make a list of them. Say their names for a week, every single day, and see what happens.
In most cases, the result will blow your mind because your innermost dominant thought becomes your outermost tangible reality.
You’re likely to notice more opportunities to act towards these individuals becoming active clients again and thereby reactivating them.
They’re also likely to somehow mysteriously and synchronously be at the right place at the right time to meet somebody that talks to somebody that mentions you, and then things start happening.
If you can't wait to serve people, people can't wait to get your service.
If you’re enthused about being with people, they’re more enthused about being with you.
Therefore, it would be wise to prioritize your ACTIONS, PERCEPTIONS and DECISIONS towards the things you value most so you can increase the probability of having those things become a reality.
It would be wise to ask yourself each morning: "What is the highest priority action step I can do today that will increase the probability or odds that I will achieve what is most important to me?"
If you prioritize your life, you will see that you have more energy, be more enthused, act spontaneously, be more likely to achieve, walk your talk, and wake up your leadership.
You’ll exemplify congruency and authenticity while also magnetizing other resonant people around you because they spontaneously are yearning to do that themselves. Whenever they see somebody living that way, they tend to be naturally drawn to them.
You attract those opportunities that you are attracted to.
That being said, it would be wise not to go after a fantasy or delusion. The probability of getting a million-dollar check in your mailbox just by visualizing it is not very high.
Ensure that you are truly willing to do what it takes to have the outcomes you want. It’s also the action steps that matter.
Although other presenting teachers appearing on "The Secret" suggested that you visualize your goals without thinking them through and planning a path to achieve them.
My experience is that strategic planning in the forebrain is a very powerful tool for making things happen. I wouldn't want to be Elon Musk and go to Mars without planning, thinking, mitigating risk and doing whatever it takes to achieve a goal.
I am a firm believer in asking, "What obstacles might I run into, and how do I solve them in advance?" In that way, I can mitigate potential risks, so I don't need to be distracted by them and am prepared for challenges instead of being broadsided by them.
In this way, I end up with eustress, which promotes wellness and inspires me instead of ending up with distress, which doesn't.
For this reason, it is wise to focus on the actions you have control over that are high on your list of values because that is where you are most likely to embrace both the accompanying pains and pleasures in the pursuit of your objective.
Your highest values is also where you’ll have the highest probability of synchronicities, noticing opportunities, resonating with those opportunities, and achieving your goals.
The people you hang out with have an impact. As does what you feed your mind.
Your innermost dominant thought will also determine where you resonate and who you hang out with most.
For this reason, you’d be wise to prioritize who you spend your time with - people who have the same kind of objectives and who operate at a similar level.
If you do, you will tend to expand yourself. If not, you will tend to contract yourself. So, consider prioritizing the PEOPLE you focus on, your ACTIONS and PERCEPTIONS each day, and what you FEED YOUR MIND.
I would much rather read the quotations of the greatest thinkers throughout the ages than read tabloid news that is distorted with misinformation and subjective biases.
I would also rather fill my mind with high priority actions, high priority thoughts, higher priority readings and content by people who have made or are making a big difference in the world.
It increases the probability of my thinking about it, making decisions, and acting upon my most inspiring objective.
I am a firm believer that if you are going to focus on something, it would be wise to make sure that it is highest on your list of values for this will elevate yourself worth and probably net worth.