Dr John Demartini explains how to increase your self-worth so that you can maximise what you give and receive in life.
When you have difficulty receiving, you impede your giving. Likewise, when you have difficulty giving, you impede your receiving. Your social world strives to maintain a fair and equitable balance, meaning these two sides of the fair-exchange equation are attempting to be synchronous and balanced, even though they're not always initially and outwardly apparent to most people. Your consciousness conserves this balance intuitively through attempting to maintain a balance in your, giving and receiving or production and consumption.
Anytime you imagine yourself giving something for nothing or getting something for nothing, you lower your perceived self-worth. It's your self-worth that determines your self-wealth or what you'll allow yourself to be, do, and have in life. Your self-worth is directly proportionate to how well you can equalise and also maximise your giving and receiving. Â
The terms giving and receiving can be expanded into â€oegiving service of great value to othersâ€ť and â€oereceiving rewards of equal value to yourselfâ€ť. In giving service, it's certainly wiser and more fulfilling to give the service you love and love the service you give. Likewise, in receiving rewards, it's wiser and more fulfilling to receive the reward you love and love the reward you receive.
It's wise to determine the form of fair compensation for any loving service given. If you provide a service to someone without predetermining a fair reward, you potentially diminish your self-worth and ultimately the self-worth of those you serve. Clearly defining what you would love in return for your service frees others from having to guess what their payment form can be. Not doing so lowers the value of the service you provide them because they feel uncertain, out of exchange, obligated, or undeserving.
People tend to place more value on the things they pay for anyway. Payment doesn't necessarily have to be limited to currency, but payment does mean some designated form of exchange that fulfils an equal value in your life. It may be money, appreciation, relationship, prestige, or any other means of compensation, but it's vital to designate what you would love to receive for what you would love to give, to designate your inward value for your outward service. Economic value is simply the most universal.
Although these two sides of exchange are ultimately and wisely balanced, they're waiting for you to clearly determine their specific forms and to expand them both equally. The moment you do, you become freed of past and future entanglements and uncertainties, and enter into a more empowered and grateful state of order and true presence. In this state of presence, you inspire others to do the same for themselves. By practicing fair exchange, you express fair and equitable blessings for all.