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Experiencing Stress? Here’s a New Way to Handle It.


By Dr John Demartini


What is Stress?


Stress may arise from suddenly discovering that the wife that you have been married to for eight years, who has been posing as a flight attendant for American Airlines, is actually a CIA undercover agent working on a drug smuggling Columbian cartel case, or it may occur when you discover that your new husband is actually a former bank robber recently released from prison. Of course these more extreme examples are less likely to occur than having more month at the end of your money than money at the end of your month, or wondering if your husband or wife is having an affair and about to leave you, or possibly having your car breakdown on the way to an important meeting or presentation.


Many more common events in daily life can initiate varying degrees of stress. But in any case stress ultimately boils down to imbalanced muscular or physiological reactions resulting from neuro-hormonal responses arising from imbalanced sensory perceptions, ones generally accompanied by fear and guilt. When we unwisely exaggerate and minimize the daily pains and pleasures of life we experience hormone related anxiety, guilt-ridden stress and feel our lives are momentarily spinning out of control with chaos. 


Before we look at a revolutionary approach, which dissolves the unhealthy and chaotic feelings associated with stress, let me first define fear and guilt. Fear arises when you assume that in the near or far future you are going to experience more pains than pleasures, more losses than gains or more negatives than positives. On the other hand, guilt arises when you assume that in the near or far past you caused more pains than pleasures, more losses than gains or more negatives than positives.


Since each event in life has both positive and negative components or repercussions anytime we misperceive such an imbalance we become stressed. Stress is where we are looking at only half of an emotional equation, not the loving and ordered whole. Drawbacks and benefits, negatives and positives, pains and pleasures, losses and gains all come in pairs. Kipling called pain and pleasure the ‘two imposters'. Emerson claimed that every excess had its compensatory defect and every defect its excess; every sweet had its sour and every sour its sweet. The key to solving stress is returning our sensory misperceptions back into balance. 


How do you realize you are stressed?


You know you're stressed any moment your mind is not present and certain and your heart is not grateful and loving. I call presence, certainty, gratitude and love the four cardinal pillars of a stress less and masterful life. Since fear involves a future imagined state of mind-body and guilt involves a past-remembered state of mind-body, stress occurs when you're distracted from the present, wavering with uncertainty, ungrateful and closed hearted. When you feel stressed your muscles become tensed, particularly those of the jaw, face, arms and hands and your breathing and speech become erratic. The result is a disordering of your thoughts and a polarizing of your mood.


What is The Demartini Method® and how does it help dissolve any kind of stress?


The Demartini Method®, is a breakthrough discovery and cutting edge personal transformation methodology. It results in a new and refreshing paradigm in thinking and feeling. It provides a foolproof and effective means of transforming any form of conflict or stress into grateful states of love and vitality. It is a systematic pre-determined series of questions and actions directed toward the objective of bringing to your conscious mind the states of presence and certainty and to your heart the feelings of gratitude and love. It is an enlightening procedure, which neutralize your emotional charges and balances your mental and physical perceptions and reactions. It is a reproducible science enabling you to discover the underlying order governing your apparent daily chaos.


Whether you are momentarily experiencing extreme or mild degrees of stress, by balancing out your mental perceptions through the use of The Demartini Method® you can dissolve the underlying source of your mental chaos and resulting emotional disorder. The stress solution that once took days, weeks, months or years can now be accomplished in a matter of hours. Stress can now be considered only a periodic adventure along a road to self-fulfillment.


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