Public Speaking and overcoming your fears

Dr John Demartini explains why so many people are afraid of public speaking and advises how to overcome this.

The fear of public speaking is one of the greatest fears the majority of people ever face.

If you understand the actual reason for your fear, you will be able to stand up and present a meaningful message. When you are able to work through this, you can go on to pursue many more social achievements.

So what exactly is this fear of public speaking?

It actually has little to do with the fear of speaking; people speak fluently to each other every day. It’s not even the fear of speaking in front of large crowds, because many has achieved this in careers or at school.

The fear of public speaking is actually the fear of speaking in front of someone who we believe or assume has something we don’t, or who has more than we have.

There are seven primary fears that could be associated with the fear of public speaking.

1. Fear of someone “more” intellegent

The first fear is the fear of speaking before those we perceive to have more intelligence. Those we think  have more specialised knowledge, perhaps more education than we have.

So, if you are a high school student and you look out into the audience and see a prestigious college professor who is an expert on the subject you’re about to talk about, you could have a fear of speaking.

2. Fear of someone “more” successful in business

The second fear is the fear of speaking in front of those who you perceive to be more successful in business.

You minimize yourself and exaggerate them, when you compare yourself and perceive them to have achieved more.

Perhaps you are speaking on business success in front of people who have multinational corporations, whilst you’ve just started your little business.

3.  Fear of someone “wealthier” than you

The third fear is the fear of speaking before those who you perceive to be more financially savvy, or wealthier than you.

If you’re talking about how to become wealthy and financially independent, you’ll probably feel intimidated compared to those who have already achieved financial success.

4. Fear of someone “more” stable in family dynamics

The fourth fear is the fear of speaking before those who you perceive to be more stable or impressive in their family dynamic.

If you were speaking on relationship issues in front of somebody who has a  40-year marriage while you just got married or already had three divorces, you’ll probably be intimidated.

5. Fear of someone “more” socially powerful

The fifth fear is the fear of speaking before someone who is more socially powerful, more influential and more respected than you.

It’s more common to listen quietly to those you look up to, rather than boldly speaking up.

6. Fear of someone “more” healthy or beautiful

The sixth fear is the fear of speaking before people you perceive to be healthier and more beautiful than you.

When you are talking on the topics of health and beauty, you might minimize yourself compared to those you perceive have more skills in this particular area.

7. Fear of someone “more” spiritually aware

The seventh fear is the fear of speaking before someone who you perceive to be more spiritually aware.

In this situation, you will withdraw from revealing your inspiring message.

The moment you think others have more than you in any of these seven areas of life, you will tend to withdraw. You become less empowered for fear of what they might think of you.

Whenever you assume that other’s opinions of you are more important than your own opinion, you tend to draw back into your shell.

You won’t have the fear of speaking when you perceive yourself to be more influential or powerful than those you are talking to. The underlying fears of public speaking boil down to subordinating to those you perceive have something you don’t. So when you minimise yourself to them or exaggerate them, your ability to speak fluently and confidently will diminish.

People combine more than one, or even all of these seven fears together when they look out at their audience. They believe some are more intelligent or successful, wealthier, more stable in relationships, more influential, healthier and more spiritually moral.

No wonder they are afraid to stand up and speak.

Dr. John Demartini is a human behavior specialist, educator, international best-selling author and the founder of the Demartini Institute.

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2 Replies to “Public Speaking and overcoming your fears”

  1. Thank you sir! This helps with being noticed by women I like and hope like me as well as teaching performing and dancing Salsa my highest value. The principles you teach have unlimited applications.

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