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DR JOHN DEMARTINI - Updated 2 weeks ago

There are many definitions of intuition offered by various thought leaders, psychologists, and philosophers through the ages, but I would like to address the version that I refer to in my work.

If you’re walking down the street and you meet somebody you admire, look up to, or feel infatuated with, you’ll tend to be more conscious of their upsides and less conscious or unconscious of their downsides, and you’re likely to experience an impulse to seek them out and want to be close to and around them.

If, on the other hand, you walk down the street and you meet somebody you dislike, don’t want to be around, or even resent, you’ll tend to be more conscious of their downsides and unconscious of their upsides, and you’re likely to experience an instinct to avoid them.

Anytime you have an impulse to seek or an instinct to avoid, you have an imbalanced ratio of perceptions. In other words, you’re seeing more positives than negatives (desire to seek), or more negatives than positives (desire to avoid).

What you may not yet know is that when you’re infatuated with an individual, your intuition is actually trying to reveal to you, and quietly whisper to you, the downsides, so that you don’t get distracted by the impulse to seek and, in the process of doing that, negate yourself or minimize yourself relative to what you’re admiring.

If you’ve ever been infatuated with somebody, you may notice that in the early stages you sometimes minimize yourself, exaggerate them, and sacrifice what is important to you in order to be with them. As that is happening, you are often simultaneously experiencing your intuition whispering, “Be careful. Don’t rush things. Take your time.”

Your intuition is quietly attempting to reveal to you what you are unconscious of, so that your conscious mind and your unconscious mind can be leveled and brought back into balance, allowing you to become fully conscious of both sides of people and less likely to be fooled by an initial façade, whether it’s something they present or something you imagine.

This intuition leading you back to balance tends to stabilize you, because when you’re infatuated with somebody, you’ll tend to minimize yourself relative to them. Just as when you resent somebody, you’ll tend to exaggerate yourself relative to them. You may be too proud, or sometimes too humble, to admit that what you see in them is also inside you. So, your intuition is constantly trying to bring you back into balance in the same way that your body is designed to bring your internal temperature back into equilibrium. If you’re too hot, you begin sweating, and if you’re too cold, you begin shivering, all in an effort to return to homeostasis.

Your intuition is designed as a negative feedback system, a cybernetics system in the brain, that restores balance to your physiology and psychology. In that way, it’s helping you become more fully conscious, so you’re less likely to be swayed by misinterpretations of the people around you or to buy into the myths and projected images, including the imposter personas that people may display. Nobody is worth putting on pedestals or pits, but everybody is worth putting in your heart.

I cannot emphasize enough that your intuition is there to guide you back into a state of authenticity. Because if you infatuate with somebody, look up to them, and minimize yourself, that’s inauthentic. You’re too humble to be yourself. And if you look down on somebody and exaggerate yourself, that too is inauthentic, because you’re too proud to admit that what you see in them is also within you. But when you’re able to see both sides simultaneously and maintain a balanced orientation, you get to be yourself. And your brain is designed to take you back to that state of being yourself.

Your intuition is constantly whispering information from your unconscious so that you can become fully conscious and see both the conscious and unconscious aspects simultaneously. This is what Wilhelm Wundt referred to as simultaneous contrast. And when you’re able to see both sides, you’re less reactive and more proactive, and you tend to feel gratitude and love for an individual instead of being caught in infatuation or resentment.

In that balanced state, your brain functions most effectively. You also have built-in homeostatic mechanisms that help regulate emotional extremes, moderating both pleasure and pain through processes such as hedonic adaptation and desensitization, in order to restore balance so you’re not continually driven by impulses to seek or instincts to avoid. As a result, your intuition is guiding you toward seeing the whole rather than the parts, allowing you to be authentic rather than impostered.

In that sense, intuition is a whispering mechanism in the brain that reveals the part of your awareness you may be overlooking.

When you’re infatuated, you tend to be unconscious and blind to the downside. When you’re resentful, you tend to be unconscious and blind to the upside. Your intuition is persistently attempting to make you aware of both sides simultaneously.

The quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions you ask.

When you consciously ask questions that bring awareness to the downsides when you’re infatuated, and to the upsides when you’re resentful, you’re able to self-govern and expand the capacity of your intuition. In doing so, you bring the mathematical equation of your mind back into balance so that you’re not swayed by misleading infatuations or resentments.

Why does this matter? Because minimizing yourself with shame or self-depreciation or exaggerating yourself with pride or self-aggrandizement is inauthentic, and you want to be loved for who you are. You can’t be loved for who you are if you’re not being who you are. And you can’t fully be who you are when your awareness of others is incomplete. If you’re putting people on pedestals or in pits, and minimizing or exaggerating yourself relative to them, by the law of contrast you’re not being yourself.

Everybody wants to be loved for who they are. They want to be themselves. And the entire field of personal development is fundamentally about moving from becoming, which is the imposter, to being, which is authentic. In that sense, intuition serves as a guide that continually directs you back into your authentic self, back into being from becoming, ontologically.

When you actually get back into the center and return to an authentic state of being, your brain lets you know it. It gives you what is often referred to as a gamma wave synchronicity, an aha or eureka moment, where you suddenly see the hidden order in what previously appeared to be chaos.

Chaos or disorder, according to Claude Shannon in information theory, is missing information, and hidden order is seeing that information.

So when you’re infatuated, you’re missing the downsides. When you’re resentful, you’re missing the upsides. But when you see the information whole, you’re no longer missing either side.

You’re seeing both sides simultaneously, and in that moment you perceive the hidden order in the apparent chaos. That experience registers in the brain as a confirmation of authenticity.

What often follows are tears of gratitude or tears of inspiration. And as I’ve travelled around the world lecturing, when I ask individuals how many of them have experienced moments like this, moments of tears of gratitude, tears of inspiration, or powerful aha experiences where they know there is something deeply meaningful there to pay attention to, almost everyone puts their hand up.

These states are confirmations of authenticity. They let you know that you’re seeing things as they actually are, not the distortions you’ve subjectively biased yourself to perceive, and that you’re perceiving the whole rather than isolated parts. This is what intuition is trying to do. It’s trying to take you from the parts to the whole, from the imposter to the authentic, from apparent disorder to hidden order.

When your internal mental equation balances and those opposites are brought into equilibrium, inspiration naturally follows. This is why I refer to this experience as a tear of inspiration. In that moment, you recognize that when you’re infatuated you tend to want to change yourself relative to others, and when you’re resentful you tend to want to change others relative to yourself. But when you see the hidden order, there is nothing to change.

As the Bhagavad Gita expresses it, Om Tat Sat, there is nothing to change. You perceive the perfection.  You no longer desire to change yourself relative to others or others relative to yourself, because you recognize that as it is, the way it is, matches a deeper perfection. In that moment, you recognize the perfection of your life. You feel gratitude. You’re present. You’re no longer distracted by impulses to seek or instincts to avoid. You simply experience a sense of awe for life as it is.

I believe intuition is a guiding mechanism that’s continually leading you back to that realization, even though it’s often whispering while you’re distracted. Because when the subcortical amygdala assigns emotional charge to your perceptions, you may imagine things to be more positive than negative and create an impulse to seek, like pursuing prey, or imagine things to be more negative than positive and create an instinct to avoid, like escaping a predator.

In those survival-driven states, your perceptions become imbalanced, skewed,  subjectively biased. You’re no longer seeing what’s actually there, but rather the distortions of your interpretations. That mechanism is essential in emergencies, when a predator is about to attack or a car is about to run over you. But in everyday life, it can distort your perceptions, generate prejudice and bias, and prevent you from fully appreciating the magnificence of the people around you, and of yourself.

So your intuition is doing what it can to guide you back into being yourself, so that you can actually appreciate your life and the individuals around you. When you realize there is nothing to change in yourself or in others, and there is a grace in that realization, you tend to experience greater utility, more sustainable fair exchange, and increased productivity and prioritization in your life. You’re present with who you are, and you’re living authentically. And that, to me, is what intuition is designed to do.

To Sum Up

•  Anytime you have an impulse to seek or an instinct to avoid, you’ll tend to have an imbalanced ratio of perceptions.
   
• When you’re infatuated, you tend to be unconscious and blind to the downside, and when you’re resentful, you tend to be unconscious and blind to the upside.
   
• Your intuition is a negative feedback system attempting to reveal to you what you are unconscious of, so that your conscious mind and your unconscious mind can be leveled and brought back into balance so you can become fully conscious.
   
• Nobody is worth putting on pedestals or pits, but everybody is worth putting in your heart. They are reflections of you.
   
• When you’re able to see both sides simultaneously and maintain a balanced orientation, you get to be yourself.
   
• The quality of your life is based on the quality of the questions you ask. Quality questions are those that equilibrate your mind and open your heart as you intuition is attempting to do.
   
• When you see the information whole, you’re no longer missing either side, and you perceive the hidden order in the apparent chaos.
   
• These moments are confirmations of authenticity, letting you know that you’re seeing things as they actually are, not the distortions you’ve subjectively biased yourself to perceive.
   
• Intuition is doing what it can to guide you back into being yourself, so that you can actually appreciate your life and the individuals around you.

If you feel inspired to explore how you can more effectively tune into or become more awakened to your intuition and live with greater clarity, balance, and authenticity, I would love to invite you to join my next two-day online Breakthrough Experience program.

During my two day signature program, I will guide you through the Demartini Method and the Value Determination Process, help you dissolve emotional distractions that may be skewing your perceptions, and show you how to ask quality questions that allow you to see both sides simultaneously. In doing so, you can bring your perceptions back into balance, access your intuition more reliably, and begin living in alignment with what is truly most important to you and that’s the path to living your most authentic and fulfilled life.

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