By Dr John Demartini Dr. John Demartini: Internationally published author, educator and human behavior specialist and a business consultant.
There are seven areas of life we are here to master; spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, familial, social and physical. They can either be powerfully supportive of your genius, or impeding it. There are also seven common fears and guilt that fragment our full potential in each of these areas and the only difference between somebody who does what they love and someone who doesn’t is the former has the ability to identify their fears and has a strategy to break through them.
The first fear is the spiritual fear of breaking some perceived authority’s ethics. Morals are the rules we impose on ourselves, and ethics are the imposed rules between others and ourselves. Many people let those fears stop them from doing what they love and expressing their genius because they fear that others may not approve of them.
The second fear is the mental fear of not knowing enough. This fear can keep you from doing what you really love, “I just don’t know enough. I’m not smart enough. I don’t have the education for it.” That’s another illusion because you have the capacity to do whatever you dream of doing, at the level you’re on now, and grow to the next. No matter how much you know you will have the unknown. You attract opportunities according to your level of knowing. As you know more you grow more. By loving yourself even when you don’t know you liberate yourself to learn.
The third fear is the vocational fear of failure. You must be able to love failure as much as success since you fail and succeed equally and constantly. Have you ever set yourself goals and didn’t fulfill them? Everyone does. You’re a success and failure constantly throughout your life, and you need both. Babe Ruth had the most home runs and the most strikeouts and that is the magnificence.
The fourth fear is the financial fear of poverty. Here you fear that if you would go out and do what you truly would love to do you won’t make enough money at it. If you love something and are committed to doing whatever it takes to succeed, value money highly, follow the financial laws of success and save you can certainly build wealth doing what you would love.
The fifth fear is the fear of losing your loved ones. Many people feel that if they do what they love they will lose someone they love. I think what stabilized my marriage is that we don’t so much need each other as we just love each other. There’s a big difference. We both have an independent life, and if either of us were to leave, the other would still function.
The sixth fear is the fear of social rejection. This is a big fear. Some people are not doing what they love because they’re afraid people will reject them. The truth is, acceptance and rejection are conserved throughout your life, and the more extraordinary you become the more you will receive of both. Learn to appreciate both equally and you are free. People come and go, they’re transient, but you’re with you for the whole trip and it’s your life. Never sacrifice the eternal for the transient. Embrace both sides of life equally.
“I’d rather have the whole world against me than my own soul.”
The seventh and last fear is the fear of ill health, death, or disease. Some people don’t live their dream because they’re afraid they’ll die if they do, or they won’t have the energy. But the greatest cause of illness, disease, and death is not living your dreams. That’ll kill you quicker than anything else. Inspiration and gratitude heal and empower, and if you’re not doing what you love you’ll feel ungrateful and desperate,
You can break through or break down in all seven areas of life. If you break down you’re listening to your fearful self, if you break through you’ve listened to your immortal self. But don’t think that you’re ever going to be without fears in your life, fear means you’re growing and challenging yourself beyond your comfort zones. I have fears almost every day, but I know that fear is an incomplete view of what is occurring, so I identify the fear, bring it to completion and balance, and then walk through it and I suggest you do the same.
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas Edison
The seven basic fears that can run your life and keep you from living your life to the fullest are:
Fear of breaking away from the system of a perceived spiritual authority (I don’t want to be considered a bad person and go to hell)
Fear of not having enough mental capability (I am not smart enough. I don’t have the credentials or degree)
Fear of failure – vocational (I won’t succeed, I’ll fall short)
Fear of losing it all financially (I’ll go broke or bankrupt. I won’t make enough money to survive)
Fear of losing loved ones – family (my parents might disown me, my lover will leave me, my friends will hate me)
Fear of social rejection (I am afraid of what everyone will think, I won’t fit in, people won’t want to be with me)
Fear of not having physical capability (I’m not tall enough, strong enough, or good looking enough. I don’t have the energy for all this)
To dissolve any fear you have in any of the seven areas of life, write the fear down and ask yourself:
- What would be the benefit of the fear happening/being true
- What would be the drawback if the thing you fear didn’t happen
- Go back to any past events where you have experienced the fear and ask yourself how experiencing it then assisted you mentally, spiritually, financially, physically, vocationally, socially, in your family.