Being Beautiful Inside Out

What is ‘Inner Beauty’?

Inner beauty is a natural expression of equanimity of mind, inspiration of soul and a poised state of gratitude and love for ourselves, others and the world in general that radiates as an immortal warmth and openness.

Is it a learned art, or are we born with it?

We are all born with the capacity to express our magnificent inner beauty, but unrealistic expectations on ourselves, others or the world in general can lead to inequity of mind and body and a cloudiness over the shining essence of our beauty within. The arts of poised meditation and yoga can restore our natural inner beauty as can completing the Demartini Method for any inner or outer conflict resolutions.

Can It be maintained day in, day out?

It is improbable that you will sustain such a perfectly poised state of mind and body 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year, for a life time. This is unrealistic and can actually initiate the very unrealistic expectation that can cloud your inner beauty. The world around us offers challenging new mysteries that help us grow and expand our awareness and influence. These challenging new mysteries can perturb our poised inner beauty momentarily until we ask a new set of questions and uncover the actual hidden order in our transient and apparent chaos. There is nothing but love and all else is illusion, but we are growing in this awareness daily as we awaken ourselves to our vast inner potential. Nothing is missing in each of us. We become ourselves to the degree that we make everyone else ourselves. Reflective consciousness liberates us from the bondage of our illusive nature and initiates the inner beauty we all radiate from within.

What must be in synergy to obtain ‘internal beauty?’ (i.e. psychological, dietary etc…)

The more poised we are the more we will radiate our inner beauty. When we balance our mind, breath, lifestyle actions and diet we can further enhance the natural emergence of our natural inner beauty.

What are five daily mantra’s to instil ‘inner beauty’ in oneself?

“I am graceful and loving and radiate inner beauty.”
“I am poised and present.”
“I am wise and willing.”
“I am inspired and open to continually expanding.”
“I am in service and fulfilled and rewarded.”
Thank you, I love myself, which is ultimately all else.

Is there a type of ’12 step program’ (for want of a better business model!) to get oneself to inner beauty?

When we feel perturbed, and disturbed, in addition to doing yoga and meditation, it is also wise to ask the following few questions to help restore our natural inner beauty… for the quality of our lives is also based upon the quality of the question s we ask ourselves daily.
What specific perception is perturbing me, or what specifically is occupying and disturbing my mind and having me feel un-poised ?
If it is due to my misperception of others, where and when have I displayed such judged actions? (this calms down judgment)
How do these misperceived actions serve and reward me?
When I too have displayed such actions how have they served those I have affected?
Where have these people that I misperceive to be perturbing me acted in the opposite manner? (this calms down labels and assumptions of absolutisms)
Who was acting in the opposite manner toward me at the same time to balance the equation? (Nature is always synchronously balanced – It is we who misperceive the ever present balance and order)
If they had acted in the opposite manner what would have been the drawbacks? (our fantasies and unrealistic expectations create our disturbances and nightmares)

Why is inner beauty so important for men and women? Boys and girls?

Maximum growth and development in the youth, and maximum sustained wellness in the mature, depends upon sustaining, or at least returning to inner beauty, equanimity and poise. We fulfill our lives most what we are in a state of equanimity and expressing our inner beauty. Beauty is symmetry, proportion and order of mind.

Is there an example of a culture or time in history that really embraced ‘inner beauty’?

Throughout history there have been a few wise masters that have been grateful and centered because of their outward and inward perceptions and who have understood the great hidden order of nature and that have achieved great awareness and levels of poise and presence that inspired and enlightened others. Inner beauty has not been limited to any single culture for it is inherent within anyone who has given themselves permission to be congruent, authentic and inspired.

Does Inner Beauty translate to outer beauty? How?

The magnificence of Inner beauty can transform the outer beauty in anyone willing to be poised and present and grateful and loving and inspired and certain with their mission and true being.

What are some external cosmetic beauty triggers that can make one feel more beautiful inside? i.e. fragrance, massage etc…

Natural essential and fragrant oils, nut and seed oils, lotions, salves, herbs, plant extracts or juices, and vitamins can assist with our outer beauty, and many have been proven to assist for centuries along with massage and movement and rest.

My thoughts on the cosmetic industry and its role in inspiring or defeating inner beauty in consumers:

Any supplemental techniques or procedures from within the cosmetic industry that can assist us with our outer beauty can also assist us with our inner beauty. When we look and feel our greatest on the outside we are more likely to activate our inner beauty. It is a two way street. The world on the inside affects the world on the outside and the world on the outside affects the world on the inside. It is wise to master both forms of beauty. As one gradually fades the other gradually rises.

Anecdotes from my teachings of someone who has really turned their lives around by learning to feel beautiful inside:

Write down everything and anything that you are not grateful for concerning your body on the outside or your life on the inside – anything you have done or not done or anything you do not love about the way you look or feel. Then write down 25 ways in which each of these actions or inactions have helped you and are currently helping you fulfill what you feel you are here to be, do and have on the planet. Do not stop writing how these are all on the way and not in your way until you are grateful for who you are. When you are grateful for who you are and what you have done or not done you are on your way to realizing how truly magnificent you are and activating your inner beauty.

What are five things we can say to someone to make them feel beautiful inside?

Thank you for being who you are, just the way you are. I love you.
Thank you for what you contribute to my life and the lives of so many around the world.
Thank you for the difference you make and for exemplifying your uniqueness and inner and outer beauty.
Thank you for your smile and wisdom that has opened up my heart and awakened within me my love for myself.
Thank you fulfilling your purpose and inspiring me to be authentic and fulfill my own mission.

Youth is so applauded in society. How can we teach our children that outer beauty is superficial, and being beautiful inside holds more weight for the world, and in turn, how can we build up older citizens to still feel beautiful and valuable?

As we mature… Nature has a way of assuring that we empower our inner beauty and mysteriously maintain the fading perception of outer beauty. As one 84 year young woman once said to me. By the time you are 84 you probably won’t be able to see them, smell them, hear them, feel them or taste them any longer, so they will be able to look just as beautiful as ever before and you will also rely on their inner beauty. So what will be left will be simply; Thank you, I love you, you gorgeous or handsome thing you.

Author: Dr J Demartini

Author, Leadership and Performance Specialist, Educator, Business Consultant and Founder of the Demartini Institute

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